In this episode of Goddess in Training, I’m joined by Mónica Fernandes, writer of The Goddess Journal and creator of The Goddess Method, a framework for women rebuilding after divorce. We talk about heartbreak recovery, identity loss, nervous system “noise,” and why healing can’t be rushed—only honored. Monica shares her concept of a healing ladder (baby steps), why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s strategy, and how reclaiming your relationship with money can become one of the most liberating parts of the journey.
In this conversation, we explore:
Why divorce can feel like a loss of identity (and why that’s normal)
The “bathroom floor” moments—and how to meet them with compassion
Mónica’s healing ladder: small steps that rebuild the self without overwhelm
Aphrodite, the divine feminine, and self-care as a strategic act of devotion
Loneliness, stigma, and why people don’t always know how to show up
The financial aftershocks of divorce—and the empowerment on the other side
Why time is your friend (even when you want a fast-forward button)
The role of sisterhood: soul sisters, therapy, and finding support that holds you
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When the Old Structure Can’t Hold
Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship.
It dismantles an identity.
When I sat down with Mónica Fernandes, what struck me most wasn’t just how deeply she understands heartbreak—it’s how clearly she names something so many women experience but rarely say out loud: after divorce, you don’t just grieve the person. You grieve the version of yourself who existed inside that life.
No one gets married expecting this ending. And yet here you are—standing in the aftermath, trying to figure out who you are now that the structure you lived inside no longer exists.
That loss can feel disorienting. Lonely. Loud.
And no amount of “just take care of yourself” advice really helps when you’re crying on the bathroom floor wondering how you got here.
You Can’t Skip the Fog
One of the most grounding parts of our conversation was Mónica’s reminder that healing doesn’t happen by bypassing emotion—it happens by moving through it.
There is no fast-track around grief.
No spiritual shortcut that lets you avoid the chaos.
The fog, the sadness, the anger, the confusion—they’re not signs that you’re failing. They’re signs that something real is moving through you.
As Mónica shared, emotions don’t disappear when we ignore them. They settle. They harden. They show up later as resentment, numbness, or self-abandonment.
Healing begins when you’re willing to feel what’s here—without judgment, without rushing yourself toward a finish line that doesn’t exist.
Self-Care Isn’t Selfish. It’s Strategy.
In Mónica’s Goddess Method, one of the most important phases is self-care—guided by Aphrodite, who reminds us that self-care is not indulgence; it’s survival.
After divorce, your love tank is often empty.
And you can’t run your life on empty forever.
Self-care doesn’t have to be performative or pretty. Sometimes it looks like rest. Sometimes it looks like saying no. Sometimes it looks like sitting quietly with yourself for the first time in years.
Not because it’s comfortable—but because it’s necessary.
Choosing yourself isn’t selfish.
It’s how you begin to come home.
The Quiet Power of Rebuilding
We also talked about money—because financial stability is often one of the most destabilizing parts of divorce. And yet, for many women, reclaiming financial agency becomes one of the most empowering moments of the entire process.
Not because it’s easy—but because it proves something important:
I can do this.
I am capable.
I am not trapped.
Healing isn’t about becoming someone new overnight.
It’s about slowly remembering your capacity.
The Goddess Era
What I’ve seen again and again—what Mónica embodies so clearly—is that women who move through divorce with honesty and support don’t come out diminished.
They come out clearer.
More self-trusting.
Less willing to abandon themselves.
Not perfect. Not untouched.
But whole.
If you’re in a season where the old structure can’t hold anymore, this episode is a reminder that you’re not broken—you’re rebuilding.
And something sturdier is rising.
Listen to the episode, and if it resonates, I’d love to hear:
What part of you is being rebuilt right now?
